Dear Friend,

Every family has one. The go-to. The responsible one. The one who keeps it together when everyone else falls apart.

They’re the one you’d trust to handle things if something ever happened to you.
The one you’d name as your executor, your trustee, your power of attorney.
The one you love deeply—and trust completely.

But here’s what most people don’t realize:

Being “the strong one” can feel like a crushing weight… when there’s no plan in place.

The Hidden Pressure No One Talks About

Imagine this.

You’ve just lost someone you love. You’re grieving. You’re shocked. You’re trying to breathe through the pain. And suddenly—everyone’s looking at you. You’re the one they chose. You’re in charge now.

And without a clear plan, here’s what that means:

  • You have to figure out what “they would’ve wanted.”
  • You have to locate paperwork that may or may not exist.
  • You have to make legal decisions, field emotional phone calls, and untangle financial messes.
  • You have to be strong. Clear. In control.

Even when you’re heartbroken. Even when you’re scared. Even when you have no idea what you’re doing.

A Heavy Role… Made Heavier By Uncertainty

I’ve seen it far too many times. A well-meaning parent or spouse puts someone they love in charge—but never gives them the tools, the information, or the clarity they need to carry the load.

They leave behind more questions than answers. And that “honor” quickly becomes a burden.

I’ve watched adult children break down in my office—afraid of making the wrong call. I’ve seen siblings accuse each other of lying. I’ve seen spouses frozen in grief and guilt—because they weren’t prepared for what was coming. And the person they were trying to honor… ends up associated with stress, confusion, and conflict.

It doesn’t have to be that way.

A Good Plan Doesn’t Just Protect the People You Leave Behind…

It protects the person you leave in charge.

It gives them a roadmap, not a riddle. It answers the hard questions before they’re forced to. It turns their role from a nightmare into a gift—because instead of scrambling, they’re carrying out your wishes with clarity, confidence, and peace.

At Bascom Law, we don’t just check legal boxes. We create plans that take care of the people who will have to carry the torch when you no longer can.

We help you make sure they’re not left guessing. We help you protect their time, their energy, and their relationships. And we give you the peace of knowing that when the day comes, the strongest person in the room doesn’t have to carry the weight alone.

Want to Honor Them the Right Way?

If you’ve already chosen your person—the one you’d want to speak for you, act for you, and protect your legacy—don’t leave them in the dark.

Give them a real plan. One that works. One that speaks clearly. One that lifts the burden instead of dropping it on their shoulders.

Call Bascom Law today. Let’s create something that protects not just your assets—but the people you trust most to carry out your wishes with grace and strength. Because love isn’t just about who you name. It’s about how well you prepare them.

Sincerely and Thanks,

Mike

Mike Bascom
Bascom Law, PC
770-285-5493